The Foundation for a Meaningful Life
Kindergarten - Grade 9 in Southborough, MA

Ideas&Insights - Phyllis Fagell

Raising Middle Schoolers: The 10 Key Skills Kids Need to Thrive and How Parents Can Help

Middle school can be unpredictable, a time of rapid physical, intellectual, social, and emotional change. With advice from her two books, "Middle School Matters" and "Middle School Superpowers," Phyllis Fagell will help you keep the lines of communication open with your kids and teach them the key skills they need to navigate their teenage years (and beyond) with confidence. She will cover making good friend choices, negotiating conflict, regulating emotions, advocating for oneself, taking healthy risks, maintaining balance, recovering from setbacks, and more.

Phyllis is a nationally board certified school counselor, a therapist who works with kids and families in private practice at The Chrysalis Group in Bethesda, Maryland, an educational consultant, and an author and journalist. She’s the author of the bestselling books “Middle School Matters” and “Middle School Superpowers” and a frequent contributor to The Washington Post. She also freelances for publications including Psychology Today, CNN, Working Mother, U.S. News & World Report, and Your Teen, and her ideas have been shared in outlets including The New York Times, The Atlantic, The New Yorker, Edutopia, Mindshift, and NPR

Event Details

Event Date: Monday, January 29, 2024
Event Time: 7:00 - 8:30 p.m.

The event will take place at Fay School's Primary Dining Commons inside the Primary School Building.

Please park in Harlow Circle, which can be accessed via Fay School's East Entrance. Click here for directions to the East Entrance, located at 23 Middle Road in Southborough, MA. If you use Apple Maps, please note that this address will take you to an incorrect location that is on the other side of the Sudbury Reservoir. If using GPS navigation, we suggest that you use Google Maps. 

This event is free to attend and open to the public, but registration is required. 

The event will only be offered in-person. A virtual program is not available and it will not be recorded. 


Fay School's Ideas&Insights Speaker Series welcomes experts in education, child development, and parenting to share research, tools, and inspiration with parents and families.

Upcoming speakers:
Michele Borba: "Raising Thrivers, Building Resilience" (May 8, 2024)

Previous speakers:
Dr. Devorah Heitner: "Growing Up in Public" (2023)
Dr. Rachel Kramer: "Building Resilience and Managing Big Emotions" (2023)
Dan Goods: "Seeing the Unseen" (2022)
Temple Grandin: "Calling All Minds" (2022)
David Epstein: "Range - Why Generalists Thrive in a Specialized World" (2019)
Dr. Madeline Levine: "Teach Your Children Well" (2019)
Dr. Richard Ginsburg: “Youth Sports Specialization: What Parents Need to Know” (2018)
Dr. Julie Lythcott-Haims: "How to Raise an Adult" (2018)
Ron Lieber: "The Opposite of Spoiled: Raising Kids Who Are Grounded, Generous, and Smart About Money” (2017)
Dr. Rob Evans: "Raising Healthy Children in Challenging Times" (2017)
Katie Greer: "How Do We Keep Our Kids Safe in This Technology-Driven World?" (2016 and 2023)
Dr. Michael Thompson: "How to Raise Responsible Children" (2015)
Dr. Nancy Carlsson-Paige: "Taking Back Childhood: Helping Children Thrive in Challenging Times" (2014)
Jessica Lahey: "The Gift of Failure" (2013)
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