Five Tips for Raising a Kind Kid

It may seem like the world is saturated with "Kindness Matters" and "Choose Kind" slogans, yet a majority of parents believe their kids are facing a kindness deficit. If so many people are talking about it, why is it still a struggle? The truth is, intentional effort is required. How do you move past the slogans and genuinely nurture a child who is kind and considerate of others? The foundation lies in specific behaviors and activities. Here are some actionable tips for intentionally building kindness in your child.

Encourage them to Connect

Kids can have a huge impact just by reaching out. Check with your local senior center to see if they are running any special programs to support seniors or suggest to your kids that they make time every day to check in with a phone call or a FaceTime to an elderly relative or neighbor to brighten their day.

Model Kindness and Volunteerism

Parents are a child’s first and most influential teachers. When they see you volunteering and helping others, that sends a strong message about what you value. If you are helping out a friend or neighbor or culling items from your kitchen for the local food pantry, involve them in those conversations and decisions so that they feel like active participants in helping others. When possible, volunteer to help out your child’s preschool or assistant coach for their soccer team so that they can see the positive impact that donating your time and energy can have. 

Meet the Helpers

There are so many members of the community whose work involves helping others: nurses, police, firefighters, librarians, food pantry workers, and animal shelter volunteers to name a few. Look for opportunities to introduce your child to the helpers in their community whose kindness makes our community a better place to live.  

What Can I Do to Help Others?

Encourage children to think about what they could contribute to helping others. Have a conversation about what people need. If your child has a green thumb, perhaps they could plant an extra tray of tomato plant seeds and deliver the plants to a neighbor or family member. Get them thinking about what they could do to make their own unique contribution to a kinder community.

Point out how Kindness Feels

When kids are on the receiving end of a kind word or deed, those are powerful teachable moments. Take the time to point out and discuss those moments when they happen. Ask your child how it felt when they were included in a game, given a nice compliment, or someone offered help when they needed it. When kids develop an awareness of how kindness feels, they will start to see the impact that they can have on others when they reach out with kindness in return.